TOTAL CONTROL. PART II
TOTAL CONTROL. PART II
Where does the urge to control everything come from? What makes us try to mentally monitor all life manifestations: spontaneous self expression, communication, and following our hearts?
Striving for control is caused by anxiety that originates in deep subconscious insecurity and self mistrust.
While we subconsciously believe that the world is filled with danger, rivalries, and people waiting for us to fail, while we think we're all alone, and no one will ever help us – the control will thrive, and keep enhancing its power.
As long as we have unperceived beliefs, like "I can't handle this", "I won't manage", or "I'm not good enough" – we'll only be in charge of a pitiful part of our comfort zone that we are familiar with, instead of owning the whole world of endless possibilities.
Striving for control is caused by anxiety that originates in deep subconscious insecurity and self mistrust.
While we subconsciously believe that the world is filled with danger, rivalries, and people waiting for us to fail, while we think we're all alone, and no one will ever help us – the control will thrive, and keep enhancing its power.
As long as we have unperceived beliefs, like "I can't handle this", "I won't manage", or "I'm not good enough" – we'll only be in charge of a pitiful part of our comfort zone that we are familiar with, instead of owning the whole world of endless possibilities.
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Striving for control is caused by anxiety that originates in deep subconscious insecurity and self mistrust.
So what should be done to create an organized inner space of creativity, frankness, and genuine emotions?
The first step is to accept the fact that we all long for control to feel safe. We want everything to run up to our expectations and closely follow the plan we've mentally developed: an ideal performance, a perfect appearance, the feed-back from others, the comments from colleagues or teachers, the way we'd like our spouse and kid to behave, etc. And if anything doesn't quite go as planned, it throws us right out of our comfort zone.
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You are safe!
Now that you know it, try letting yourself to:
Give way to spontaneity
Listen and follow your inner voice
Trust the world and people, and start opening up to them
Make mistakes. You're not a machine, and you're not the Almighty God either. You don't have to be perfect.
We're not kids, not knowing how to handle challenges and take care of themselves, or not having enough qualifications to do so. The way we perceive the world and ourselves in it defines the results we get as we move forward.
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